R.I.P., Mommy

I’ve been getting some interest in posts about Sensory Kids lately, so here are some thoughts on aggressive play from a couple years ago. I just had to confiscate a light sabre this morning, so it remains germane…

emily en route

A 32-year-old north side woman was turned into a banana and eaten this morning. The only witnesses, her two- and three-year-old sons, were unable to recall exact details of the incident, but it appears it might have involved foul play.

An angry young chef chopped up a 32-year-old Chicago mom at 4 p.m. this afternoon. He then put her in a soup with carrots and cinnamon. Her husband and two sons are being questioned.

A mother, confused for wild game, died of fatal wounds from a bow and arrow this afternoon. Just before the incident occurred, neighbors say they heard a young voice yell, “You’re a turkey and I’m a Wampanoag. I’m gonna shoot you, turkey.”

Image Sharks? Guns? “Yes, please!” Charlie and Kip say. (Daddy is much more comfy with violent play than I.)

I die at least three times a day. Each time, it’s new, in a way I’d…

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2 thoughts on “R.I.P., Mommy

  1. Funny how timely this blog was for my family. We have been struggling to suppress my three year old son’s aggression. It seems like I spend most of my waking hours with him getting him to be a “nice” boy, instead of the terrorist in making. I guess I have that fear that his constant pulling on his sister or talk of running us off the road is some early sign of sociopathic behavior. Just another example of an adult parent transferring their own thoughts onto the children.

    • Oh, Evan, this sounds so familiar. I found myself repeatedly deciding my son was a sociopath. Not so! Your little fella may just crave some different kinds of play to help “get it out of his system.” If you like, check into the Floortime model as a resource. I’m not an OT and therefore not an expert but, basically, you take 15 minutes a day to just follow your child’s lead in playtime. React with big facial expressions to whatever he does, feel free to talk in funny voices, roleplay with animals, whatever he wants to do. No correcting, just going with his flow. If he hurts you in the process, make a big sad face and explain “Ow, that hurts my body when you do that. Ow. I don’t like it when you do that.” (in my experience, this may help your son to connect his actions with how it impacts others, including his sister, who can’t yet speak for herself…oh boy, this was totally my life for Kip’s first two years or so.) It’s tricky because we always want our kids to choose the “nice” way, but there may be a roundabout way of getting there. I’ve puppeteered countless stuffed animals who weathered a gruesome beating, and then Charlie would seem to feel tons better and be much more regulated afterward. Again, I’m not an expert, but enough experts assured me when Charlie was 3 that these behaviors were quite typical, even moreso within the Sensory Processing Disorder set, and that none of them indicated “sociopath.” So, breathe easy, follow his lead in play 15 minutes a day, see how that goes and don’t hesitate to hook it up with additional support if you feel like it might help. You are an awesome dad!

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