I think we learn a lot from our friends. Sometimes it’s awkward to tell them so face-to-face. So I’ve written my friend a simple letter (which makes me admittedly more awkward, but she likes me anyway):
I learned something awesome from you today.
After the new neighbor approached us and we found out he’s an improv actor/comedy writer, you and I responded at the same time. Me, to tell him I have a friend who’s successfully pursuing the same line of work in LA; you to ask him where he does improv.
Guess to which of us he responded?
In a three-minute exchange, I learned a lot more than where our new neighbor does improv. Your uncontrived social grace made me realize the following:
a.) I often attempt to connect with people by trying to prove I already understand them. And…
b.) You connect with people by trying to find out more about them.
You personally know Abed from “Community.” He went to your high school. You did not mention this. In your shoes, I probably would’ve. You showed me another way.
Thanks for teaching me how to connect more sincerely with people. And thanks for being my friend even though, the first time we met, I probably acted like I already knew all about you.